One of my very dearest friends found out just last week she is expecting twins. Twins! The really exciting part is my friend also has a toddler who is almost the same age as my girls (just turning 2), so she will be living in the very deep end in a few short months.
We have been talking twins, twins and TWINS lately because of her news, and I thought some of our conversations might be helpful or useful for other moms out there who are in the deep end, too. I’d love to add on to it with advice from other mamas out there in the blogging world!
Ten Things You Need to Know About Your Twin Pregnancy
- Let yourself feel the spectrum of emotions: Fearful, excited, joyful, overwhelmed…and then take a deep breath and say a prayer of thankfulness. God sees something in you or He wouldn’t be blessing you with these babies. You can do this!
- Order or borrow the Dr. Luke book ASAP. It will be your scary best friend for the next few months.
- Be prepared to be frustrated with the lack of twin pregnancy info out there. Almost all of the pregnancy websites and apps are only devoted to a singleton pregnancy, and twins are a different ball game. This is why the Dr. Luke book is so important.
- You will likely need maternity clothes pretty early. Try to buy your tops 1-2 sizes bigger than what you would think you’ll need. I had a sales person at Motherhood Maternity find me some tunic-type tops that she thought I could “size jump” in, meaning they wouldn’t look too big to wear right away and would give me plenty of room to cover a giant twin belly in a few weeks. Those were the only tops I could still wear in the final weeks…all of the cute medium and small tops I bought in the beginning couldn’t cover my belly at the end!
- Find and connect with other twin moms as soon as you can. I was fortunate enough to have a very close cousin who had twins (and bought me the Dr. Luke book!) and who was an amazing resource for me. I also “stalked” a twin mom in Target to ask about her double stroller, and we became friends. She and the other twin moms I met along the way were a HUGE help to me.
- Consider seeing a high-risk obstetrician or a maternal-fetal specialist. You may decide you want to have extra eyes on your babies and to track your cervical length to prevent pre-term labor. This high-risk OB can just be on your team with your normal OB and not take over your care. It’s a personal choice especially if you are having a healthy pregnancy, but it’s one of those things you don’t want to look back after you’ve encountered some unexpected problem and say, “I wish I had seen an additional doctor.” These doctors specialize in twins and can give you additional reassurance and opinions throughout your pregnancy.
- When friends and family find out you’re having twins, you may get some unusual questions. Everyone wants to know about fertility treatments or “natural” babies…your fertility suddenly becomes an acceptable topic of conversation when you’re having twins! Don’t be afraid to politely smile and change the topic.
- Try to stay off of the internet because so many scary and sad twin pregnancy stories are out there. You don’t want to be extra stressed, and not all twins are born incredibly premature. Many twin moms carry their babies to full term!
- Work on nursery preparations as early as you can just in case you are too tired or on bed rest during the final weeks of your pregnancy. The final weeks of a twin pregnancy are exhausting. You’ll likely be measuring WAY ahead (I was measuring 46 weeks at my 37 week appointment–as big as a singleton pregnancy that is 6 weeks overdue!) and will be tired at the end. Knowing your house is ready to bring the babies home will make it easier on you to rest at the end.
- Before buying any twin gear, visit with a few different twin mamas or read a few different twin blogs. There are some things you might not need to buy in a pair and others which you absolutely MUST have two. The same goes for strollers–do some research with mamas who have been there before you buy anything. (I found one double stroller I was given was too bulky for me to manage by myself and wouldn’t fit in any doorways, and the stroller I ended up buying AFTER getting recommendations from other twin moms was absolutely worth it.)
Okay twin mamas–what else needs to go on this Top Ten for a Twin Pregnancy list? Let’s help my friend out! If you’d like to share a link to your twin blog, I’m sure she’d appreciate that, too, so feel free to post a link in the comments!