Embracing Your Mom Body

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Before and after photos typically celebrate major weight loss, dramatic plastic surgery or some starlet who has returned to looking fabulous after having kids.

What if a before and after picture was designed to celebrate a return to a “mom” body? This picture of Australian mom of three Taryn Brumfitt below set off a social media firestorm a few months ago for breaking the mold and embracing body:



After training for and competing in a bikini body contest, Brumfitt realized having a “perfect” body left her emotionally and spiritually unhealthy at the end of the competition. She decided to return back to her balanced lifestyle of moderate exercise, occasional treats and typical “mom” life. After many tears and making plans to have a tummy tuck and breast augmentation, she had a breakthrough.

Brumfitt felt a strong conviction that teaching her daughter to have a healthy body image could only be accomplished through learning to love her own body as a mom with all of its bumps, lumps and wrinkles. She is now on a mission to educate women everywhere by filming a documentary (which will be funded through a Kickstarter campaign) about the root of widespread body image issues and how freeing it can be to embrace your body just the way it is. This quote from a video clip on Huff Post Women captures the heart of her movement:

“I want women to stop striving for it [the perfect body]. I want women to start focusing more on their accomplishments [and] how they contribute to the world. If women can remove this chip, this body shaming and hating chip, get it out of their head…it allows them to contribute more, and that’s what it’s all about.”

As a mom of twins who hates swimsuit shopping and has researched and seriously considered a tummy tuck to repair my stretched out and saggy middle, this movement is a breath of fresh air to a weary soul.

I have cried too many tears over clothes which didn’t fit the way they used to, and I wish I had saved those tears for a conversation with a friend who was going through a hard time.

I have spent too many hours reading books about abdominal exercises and tummy tucks after someone once again told me I looked pregnant, and I wish I could have spent those hours laughing with my family in the backyard.

I have made too many nasty comments to my reflection in the mirror, and I wish I could have used those words to encourage a fellow mom.

I am done wasting my time in the quest for the perfect body. I’m going to learn to love this body not only for my sake but as an example for my daughters, and I am pouring my energy into things which are more important in life.

I challenge you to join me in sharing Taryn’s story and the Body Image Movement. We deserve it, and our daughters absolutely deserve it. #Ihaveembraced

This article was published on the Greeley Moms website here. Check out Greeley Moms today!




4 thoughts on “Embracing Your Mom Body

  1. Some days I accept my loose skin, and my wasted wardrobe I spent so much time and money creating. Other days I ask myself, why aren’t you putting in any effort to tone? I feel like at this point in my journey, I can’t relate to Taryn or to Maria Kang (the “what’s your excuse” lady). I’m sort of still figuring it out, while being okay most days with the me I am today. 🙂

  2. I think that sounds perfect–I bet you’ll find your sweet spot soon, but being okay most days is still good! For me those first 2 years post-baby were the toughest. I can do more now but I also have had more time with the body changes from the babies and am closer to a happy medium. This blog and Taryn’s website gave me such a mental boost! Thanks for stopping by!

  3. I’m with you. It’s hard when you realize all those body ideals found in magazines apply only to pre-pregnancy bodies, and afterward your body is something completely different. You are right, it really isn’t worth spending mental energy on. Our bodies are healthy (knock on wood) and get us where we need to go, so let’s spend our time having fun at the pool or wherever not worrying about it.

    • Yes! Life is too short to get bogged down on not looking like a model in a magazine. Thank goodness for healthy, happy twins and love the body that brought them into the world. 🙂

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